What do you do?

[Trekker4747]

Ok, it's gone on too long and it occurs too much.

Either the people who live above me are practicing to join Cirque de Soleil or they're complete assholes.

I know when one lives in an apartment with another unit above them certain things have to be exceted and even expected and one of those thing is noise from the upstairs neighbors.

But seriously, y'all, I don't know what is going on up there but there is always running, rummaging, banging and crashing at timesit sounds like they might have two large-ish dogs who scruffle with one another but there's a lot of noise up there almost ALL of the time.

It. Is. Relentless.

If someone where living under me they'd probably wonder if my apartment were even occupied. I walk softly, I don't bang around, etc. The people above me? Gosh.

So, how is this situatiuon handled? Should I go up there and ask them, politely, what the hell is going on and to try and keep it down? I mean, it's not exactly distrubing levels of noise as in it's interupting my lifestyle or sleep or anything it's just... annoying.

I'm not good at dealing with confrontations with other people, especially strangers, so I'm not sure how I'd even be able to do such a thing.

Should I go to management and see if they're possibly breaking some-kind-of noise rule?

Should I just ignore it? Not entirely impossible but the noise up there is just annoying.

 

[Gaseous Anomaly]

Perhaps they have kids, kids run and could be mistaken for dogs and they run and bang a lot. As for what to do? You might ask them to curtail the running during your bed time. Other than that I have no idea.

 

[Trekker4747]

During some of the more "heated" rumblings up there I think I've heard the "gruffing" and "growling" of animals and their apartment would be a one-bedroom so I doubt it's kids.

 

[Gaseous Anomaly]

Could very well be dogs then? Are dogs permitted in your building?

 

[tharpdevenport]

Have you tried talking to the land lord, or person/company you rent from?

 

[Trekker4747]

Could very well be dogs then? Are dogs permitted in your building?

Dogs are permitted.

Have you tried talking to the land lord, or person/company you rent from?

No.

Hence the thread asking what I should do.

 

[archeryguy1701]

Ask politely two or three times, and if it persists, take it to a higher authority. The advantage to being an RA is I don't have to put up with that sort of stuff... I can get away with warning them and then busting them myself.

 

[trekkiedane]

Have a nice chat with them in which you explain that it sounds really loud down in your flat -whatever it is that they're doing…

 

[Rÿcher]

find out their full names and put them on the mailing list for free stuff that they don't need so their mailboxes start getting inundated with junk mail. I do that with noisy neighbors who are noisy with radios. I send them stuff for Miracle Ear or other hearing aid products.

Doesn't accomplish anything. Just my passive-aggressive tactics at work.

 

[Gaseous Anomaly]

find out their full names and put them on the mailing list for free stuff that they don't need so their mailboxes start getting inundated with junk mail. I do that with noisy neighbors who are noisy with radios. I send them stuff for Miracle Ear or other hearing aid products.

Doesn't accomplish anything. Just my passive-aggressive tactics at work.

I love it; I'll give it a shot with my mid-life crisis neighbor!

 

[Captain Ice]

Perhaps they have kids, kids run and could be mistaken for dogs and they run and bang a lot. As for what to do? You might ask them to curtail the running during your bed time. Other than that I have no idea.

This is what I'd do.

Some people just won't realize that they have someone who lives underneath them and can hear the banging and stomping that goes on in their home until someone tells them or they get an apartment on the ground floor.

It's also conceivable that this is their first apartment and they lived in a house/with their parents before and they have no idea that their movements can be heard by anyone else.

 

[Trekker4747]

Perhaps they have kids, kids run and could be mistaken for dogs and they run and bang a lot. As for what to do? You might ask them to curtail the running during your bed time. Other than that I have no idea.

This is what I'd do.

Some people just won't realize that they have someone who lives underneath them and can hear the banging and stomping that goes on in their home until someone tells them or they get an apartment on the ground floor.

It's also conceivable that this is their first apartment and they lived in a house/with their parents before and they have no idea that their movements can be heard by anyone else.

Then they're self absorbed idiots, on both possible "excuses."

 

[MANT!]

My advice....go Nuclear...

seriously..until you give them the chance to reform by talking to them..you really don't have much recourse beyond that..tell them you need your sleep or something..

 

[auntiehill]

Talk to them politely and explain the problem.

If it doesn't improve after a few days, go to the management.

That's really all you can do.

 

[Captain Intrepid]

One day when they're out, go into the floor above them, make a small hole in their ceiling, and fill their apartment with foam peanuts. Should dampen the noise.

 

[ThankQ]

Perhaps they have kids, kids run and could be mistaken for dogs and they run and bang a lot. As for what to do? You might ask them to curtail the running during your bed time. Other than that I have no idea.

This is what I'd do.

Some people just won't realize that they have someone who lives underneath them and can hear the banging and stomping that goes on in their home until someone tells them or they get an apartment on the ground floor.

It's also conceivable that this is their first apartment and they lived in a house/with their parents before and they have no idea that their movements can be heard by anyone else.

Then they're self absorbed idiots, on both possible "excuses."

For all the noise they're making, you're the one who seems to be jumping around... to conclusions.

Being unaware of how your behaviour is effecting others does not necessarily mean you're "self absorbed". It's simply means you're unaware.

And, how could they be aware if you haven't made them aware? You seem to be judging them because they're lacking the ability to read your mind.

Just go up there some reasonable hour, and in a friendly, adult and clearly assertive manner, say: Hey guys, my name's Bill, I live below you, and there have been some occasional noise issues. You know, I know some of that's going to happen in an apartment and I want to be reasonable, but there have been a few times when it's been a distraction from the things I need to do, so if you guys could be a little more aware of when that's going on I'd appreciate it."

Don't be an asshole, just be a reasonable guy bringing something to the attention of other reasonable people.

If they say sure, I'm sorry, and then actually DO IT, great.
If they say sure, I'm sorry, and nothing changes, go to them again, once more, with a little more assertiveness.

If they're pricks about it and tell you to buck up or go fuck yourself, then take it to the next step.

 

[Trekker4747]

Being unaware of how your behaviour is effecting others does not necessarily mean you're "self absorbed". It's simply means you're unaware.

Being unaware that your living in a second-floor apartment means someone is living below you and that they may hear the running, rumbling and tumbling activities considering the floors/ceilings between apartments isn't any more substanial than that of the floors between homes makes you an idiot -IMHO.

Being unaware of how your behavior effects others is the very definition of "self absorbed."

 

[RoJoHen]

Being unaware of how your behaviour is effecting others does not necessarily mean you're "self absorbed". It's simply means you're unaware.

Being unaware that your living in a second-floor apartment means someone is living below you and that they may hear the running, rumbling and tumbling activities considering the floors/ceilings between apartments isn't any more substanial than that of the floors between homes makes you an idiot -IMHO.

Being unaware of how your behavior effects others is the very definition of "self absorbed."

Living in my parents house, and then in the dorms, and then in a townhouse, and then in two more houses with roommates, I never once heard noises from people upstairs. Sturdy buildings...good insulation...whatever it was, I never heard the people above me.

It's possible your neighbors have similar experience, so they really might not know that you can hear them.

 

[Ar-Pharazon]

Being unaware that your living in a second-floor apartment means someone is living below you and that they may hear the running, rumbling and tumbling activities considering the floors/ceilings between apartments isn't any more substantial than that of the floors between homes makes you an idiot -IMHO.
Being unaware of how your behavior effects others is the very definition of "self absorbed."

Agreed. Also a complete lack of common sense would keep someone from being "aware" they were making that much noise. Too many people probably don't care either, which leads back to "self absorbed".

I have been having long term problems with a noisy downstairs neighbor and her 2 out of control brats. I went straight to the office and have been doing so for several months. Talking to the offenders is never an option for me, because as soon as they get smart with me I WOULD go nuclear on their ass. I have been printing out complaints and giving them to the office, but they're pretty much worthless and keep telling me that it's going to get resolved. Pure BS.

Next stop, a lawyer, to see if civil action against the rental company is possible.

 

[Kestra]

Get some earplugs in case it becomes too much one night and otherwise learn to deal with life's annoyances.