Video game widow

[blablover5]

I can't believe after being married for only 2 months I've already become a widow.

My husband has gotten big into Oblivion (by the way the Patrick Stewart Emperor character is freaky as hell), spending a good 4 hours a day playing it. Okay so it only happens on the weekend or during the week if there's something really good to kill.

But I'm getting quite bored on the weekend and feeling rather ignored.

Is anyone else a vide game widow (or a something else widow)?

Okay so I can't spell if a mod wouldn't mind fixing the title a bit and make it look all pretty there'll be a treat in it for you.

 

[Kestra]

Re: Vide game widow

I could be, easily. I got into World of Warcraft though, and that has helped a lot. It's not just that it distracts me when my husband is off playing games, but also that I understand the game. I have an idea of how much is too much, when I can bug him or when he's doing something that will take a long time, etc. Plus it's fun to play together, honestly.

Maybe it's odd to let him take a day on a weekend and play videogames all day but if such an innocent thing makes him that happy, I'm happy to let him enjoy it.

 

[John Clark]

Re: Vide game widow

Well, I spend way too much time on the computer, but I know if the woman I loved wanted to distract me, she'd have been able to do so easily.

Personally, if it bothers you, I'd say tell him how you feel and you can work it out from there

 

[Stone_Cold_Sisko]

Re: Vide game widow

You should just tell him he's playing too much and you're feeling ignored. Women are notorious for putting on a face that makes it seem like everything's ok, guys are more literal, if they look and it seems like you're fine, as far as they're concerned you're fine.

Make sure to actually say "I'm feeling ignored" instead of hinting at it and waiting for him to pick up on it. He probably doesn't realize how much it bothers you.

And dont try to ban it, but ask that he cut it down to an hour or two a night. If you can get him into the habit of playing LESS without going cold turkey you just might find that he eases up on it on his own.

 

[Cayla]

Re: Vide game widow

I'm not a video game widow, but I can understand what you mean, blab. All my husband wants to do after work is watch tv. He's not much for conversation on Monday through Saturday evenings. I get bored watching so much tv, so I spend my time on the internet during the evening hours. He will then complain that I ignore him all the time by being on the computer. It a no win situation.

 

[blablover5]

Re: Vide game widow

Okay so there are a few times when we're on our computer in seperate corners of the apartment. But we haven't gotten so bad as MSNing each other. Though I did used to do that with my friends in the dorms.

That confused the crap out of the RAs but we had tons of fun. He he he

 

[TheBrew]

Re: Vide game widow

Well, if you guys are just hanging around, then that might not spur much interaction. Try to set up an outside the apartment activity. If he passes on that to play Oblivion, then you have a problem.

I play a good amount of video games, but my golden rule is to always drop what I am playing if someone says lets go do something. The only exception is if I am on a planned raid (a planned group effort with friends to attack larger challenges) and even then it's if it has already started.

 

[TheLonelySquire]

Re: Vide game widow

I can't believe after being married for only 2 months I've already become a widow.

My husband has gotten big into Oblivion (by the way the Patrick Stewart Emperor character is freaky as hell), spending a good 4 hours a day playing it. Okay so it only happens on the weekend or during the week if there's something really good to kill.

But I'm getting quite bored on the weekend and feeling rather ignored.

Is anyone else a vide game widow (or a something else widow)?

Okay so I can't spell if a mod wouldn't mind fixing the title a bit and make it look all pretty there'll be a treat in it for you.

My wife decided to learn to play Tiger Woods because I played it often. She's now almost as good as me. Almost.

Learn to play!

 

[Omnius]

Re: Vide game widow

Blab, with all your powers, you cant even make your husband do your bidding... What has this world come to...

Must say, your husband is a brave man!

 

[blablover5]

Re: Vide game widow

Blab, with all your powers, you cant even make your husband do your bidding... What has this world come to...

Must say, your husband is a brave man!

Sometimes my powers need a rest. So just put him in front of the PS3 for a few hours to free my poor tired brain. It works well til they actually become glued to the screen and all.

By the way, I didn't recognize you at all. Where's the squirrel? Even a plan I can figure out. A lump of dough on fire just confuses me.

 

[Searider Falcon]

Re: Vide game widow

But we haven't gotten so bad as MSNing each other. Though I did used to do that with my friends in the dorms.

That confused the crap out of the RAs but we had tons of fun. He he he

Hee! I used to do that with my friends who lived on the same floor as me, too. Actually, my roommate and I used to IM each other while in the same room just for giggles.

 

[blablover5]

Re: Vide game widow

But we haven't gotten so bad as MSNing each other. Though I did used to do that with my friends in the dorms.

That confused the crap out of the RAs but we had tons of fun. He he he

Hee! I used to do that with my friends who lived on the same floor as me, too. Actually, my roommate and I used to IM each other while in the same room just for giggles.

It was a lot better having MSN with my best friend who lived next door to me. Before I got it if she wanted me for something she'd just bang on the wall til I came over.

 

[Hermiod]

Re: Vide game widow

Sorry, blab, but it's Oblivion. Just give in gracefully and move on with your life.

 

[Roshi]

Re: Vide game widow

I could be, easily. I got into World of Warcraft though, and that has helped a lot. It's not just that it distracts me when my husband is off playing games, but also that I understand the game. I have an idea of how much is too much, when I can bug him or when he's doing something that will take a long time, etc. Plus it's fun to play together, honestly.

Maybe it's odd to let him take a day on a weekend and play videogames all day but if such an innocent thing makes him that happy, I'm happy to let him enjoy it.

Kestra = Best Wife Ever!

 

[Zulu Romeo]

Re: Vide game widow

Just be thankful it's not Civilization (any version), blab - he'll be lost to you for ever.

 

[Lindley]

Re: Vide game widow

^Who needs a wife when those damn Americans have pulled ahead of my Mongols in the Space Race again? There's tech to be stolen!

 

[John Clark]

Re: Vide game widow

Sorry, blab, but it's Oblivion. Just give in gracefully and move on with your life.

Hmm. I'm thinking I now know the perfect gift for the hubby of one of my friends if it's that effective

 

[Cayla]

Re: Vide game widow

Hee! I used to do that with my friends who lived on the same floor as me, too. Actually, my roommate and I used to IM each other while in the same room just for giggles.

It was a lot better having MSN with my best friend who lived next door to me. Before I got it if she wanted me for something she'd just bang on the wall til I came over.

When my husband is outside or in the garage, and I am in the house, I call him on his cell phone if I need to tell or ask him something.

 

[blablover5]

Re: Vide game widow

Sorry, blab, but it's Oblivion. Just give in gracefully and move on with your life.

I suck at that game. I'm a kitty with the ugliest hair ever that runs around stealing things. Though everything I stole was on accident, I was quite good at clearning a table in a castle.

 

[Electric Coleslaw]

Re: Vide game widow

I can't handle anything more complicated than Pac-Man so I'm in no danger of playing online games.