The main thing which became a real issue was Riker disagreeing on sacrificing Picard, which became a shouting match where Jellico relieved him of duty right in front of Troi. Now think about Shelby in a disagreement. When she came to that situation with Riker about the saucer separation plan, she totally went around him and disregarded his judgement causing him to confront her. Say that happened with Jellico on Cardassians he would flip out too except more harsh than Riker
I'm just not seeing the correlation. The main thing wasn't just the final disagreement that got Riker relieved. He'd be spiraling down a well of disgruntlement that led him to that argument, the whole time, right from when he voiced his opinion to Nechayev, that he should've been put in command. Refusing to put in place a command order, because he expected he had the leeway to reverse it. Talking disparagingly about the captain to his subordinates, potentially tainting their attitudes towards him, engaging in obstinance or apathy where his duty is concerned because he feels underappreciated.
I'll cite the examples if you really want me to, but it was more than just one argument about Picard, wherein logistically, Jellico is actually right. It would've been foolhardy for them to just send a team there to rescue him. It's literally the definition of going off half-cocked, & was probably exactly what the gambit was intended to invoke. Playing right into their hand.
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Anyway, Shelby only had two real issues. She went down to the surface with Data, because she thought she had that authority, & autonomy, & since she doesn't serve under Picard or Riker directly, I'm not entirely sure she doesn't. She's the mission specialist, & at the very least, she may be coming from an assignment where she'd been granted that leeway. Only after Riker objects to it, do we figure she has to answer to him in some way, even if only in rank. If it was such a terrible rank abuse, why would Data have been so readily willing to avail himself of it?
Secondly, she proposes a course of action that he dismisses, & she takes it to his superior, & again, there's no real evidence to suggest that Picard's ear is limited only to suggestions that run up the chain of command. Picard himself asks often for suggestions from all available avenues, & doesn't seem to have much issue with this one having been brought to him either.
I'm not seeing how either of those minor procedural indiscretions would serve to malign her ability to be a solid #1 to Jellico. She would know she answers to him directly. Whereas her status with Riker is less defined imho, & in fact, the dude is admittedly a little complacent to boot, & probably ought to feel the pinch of lesser officers driving up the ranks through him. All tolled, when the mission took form, & she got posted as XO under Riker, there was nothing of any of that, & that's the example we should be recognizing imho
I think that was part of everybody busting her chops because of what she did with her away team and her disrespect towards Starfleet
My point wasn't about her though. It was about him doing that. That Ro is a problematic officer is beside the point. If he's an admirable officer in his own right, he should have more respect for
himself & his post than to knock someone over minutia, out of spite for them, especially when the Klingon wears an equivalent cultural adornment & the ship's counselor dresses in civilian attire. Clearly, Picard's crew isn't the best example of staunch uniform code, & yet Will is using
that to push her around, just because he wants to push her around. Deserved or not, it's a pretty poor reflection on him imho, & rather small of him, at least pettier than Jellico was in the same situation with Troi, where pretty much everyone aboard was bucking his command, in spirit.