No, actually. It wasn't personal because Luke didn't actually no his father. His school, on the other hand, he built himself, while being told the whole time he is the "last hope" for the Jedi. He did not know Anakin the way he knew Ben or the way that he knew his school.
I'm not a "master psychologist" so lets put that term to rest, ok?
Severe trauma is highly subjective. Trauma is something that is intensely upsetting that a person feels they cannot deal with.
The lack of forgiveness does not mean evil. These are still people, capable of mistakes and challenges.
I don't think it's "wrong after all." I think it's the protective instincts of a person hurt and not sure what to do, so he runs away. It's not that forgiveness isn't possible; it's that Luke can think past his hurt at the time.
We as the audience sit there and go "Oh, it's so obvious" and remove all the emotional components out of it. But, that's not how the characters see it. They are in the middle of deeply powerful emotions and emotions impact our ability to think clearly. Luke is clearly highly emotional, highly conflicted, and uncertain. He fears the mistakes of the past being repeated and feels responsible for causing them, but fears trying to help again for fear of making it worse.
It's rich in its nuance of human conflict and highly enjoyable for me.
But, I can see that not being for everyone.
I think if Luke had been gone a month at the beginning of TFA that would make sense for me...or even if he had been gone ten years because he had no way of getting back but had actually wanted to return to sort things out....and had then gone off the rails a bit because he had been trapped there...that would make a greater sense. It might be more realistic/human, but it’s not more legend/human, and certainly the constant smashing and killing of the hero characters is not suited to what are or were intended for a child audience (almost first and foremost.) I mean sure, we kind of cross that rubicon with Reveng of the Sith as it is...but even the treatment of the characters over in Rebels starts to burn bridges (turned my little one right off of Star Wars. When you are under ten, the heroes are supposed to live, not get blinded and eventually...well. Spoilers I guess. ) with them.
In some ways that’s the same argument we get for the ST. We can just about get behind the Solo death as being roughly akin to Obi Wan (it isn’t, in many ways...for a start, he’s not set Rey out on her quest and given her secret truth etc yet. He doesn’t have enough of a bond to have his death affect her so greatly...Luke has known Obi Wan Years, and had just had great revelations and a quest thrust upon hiM.) but if you do that to everyone...and it is, every happy ending undone, every hero killed and first made into a failure...pretty soon the saga becomes nihilist. You can have ups and downs, but this mostly downs thing isn’t working well.
Someone once said ‘it’s not that stories teach us there are monsters, but that they teach us monsters can be fought’ (paraphrasing) but here we are adding ‘but you will never win’.
It makes it hard to cheer on the new guys, because we know even if they are amazingly amazing, their lot will always be to suffer and die.
It’s the dangers of reopening a closed story in the manner they have chosen.
