This is why I don't even bother asking women out anymore!

[Sean Aaron]

Sinead O'Connor is looking for a man.

*Must be willing to do it up the butt

I don't think anyone is that desperate.

I kind of like her new, chubbier look myself.

 

[Trekker4747]

Sinead O'Connor is looking for a man.

*Must be willing to do it up the butt

I don't think anyone is that desperate.

I kind of like her new, chubbier look myself.

I guess it's a little bitter than her scrawny shorn look, but not that much.

 

[LitmusDragon]

I have almost more first dates lined up in the next two weeks than I can handle thanks to OK Cupid.

Just thought I'd share.

 

[Kommander]

Few people agree with me on this, but when asking someone out, getting turned down is a good thing. Without exception.

It is said that "the worst that can happen is they'll say 'no.'" I know from experience that isn't true. Women have laughed in my face, said things like "I'm insulted that you'd think I'd date a loser like you" and "that's my boyfriend over there. Leave me alone or I'll tell him to beat the shit out of you," and other things I don't care to mention; it's a long list. Still, it's a good thing.

If one turns down another's request for a date, it's really nothing personal. The prima facie reason is that we as humans can't choose who we're attracted to and who we're not attracted to. Beyond that, it takes more that mutual attraction for a relationship to work: compatible personalities and goals, similar interests, skill sets that complement each other... It's true that there are "plenty of fish in the sea," as it were, but compatibility is somewhat rare, and it's worth holding out for.

When someone turns down a date, it's usually because they realize that compatibility isn't there. While rejection hurts, and it may not seem like it at the time, they're actually doing you a favor. If they're not feeling it, but they say "yes" anyway, it will only cause bigger problems down the line.

Being turned down only means you're not what they're looking for. it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, or that you're not good enough. Even if a girl actually thinks you're not good enough, or actually tells you you're not good enough, she's still doing you a favor. I mean, would you really want to date such a complete bitch?

Verily, there is much wisdom in this post.

As for those things the women said to you... ... literally the first time I've heard of such responses.

Most of the "worse that no" stuff was from high school, which explains everything. The stuff after high school... some women are just bitches. Still, that kind of response isn't typical for me.

Although, I don't really ask women out anymore, or "date" either. I do things that look very much like asking people out and dating, but I think about it differently. Asking someone out usually means "I have a romantic interest in you, and I'd like to pursue that, are you interested?" Whereas what I do, I mean "I'd like to get to know you better." Yeah, that's what dating is supposed to be, but usually there is the implication of romantic interest. The difference is I don't like to go in with expectations.

I am astonished that for so wise a post you have not been granted your own starship command and promoted to Kaptain.

Heretofore I shall only refer to you as Kaptain because, seriously, this post wins this thread.

What do I need with a starship? It sounds like too much responsibility.

Kommander is not a rank, it is a state of being. While I find your desire to promote me flattering, it really isn't necessary.

 

[Myasishchev]

Sinead O'Connor is looking for a man.

*Must be willing to do it up the butt

I don't think anyone is that desperate.

I kind of like her new, chubbier look myself.

Man, in the olden days, I'd already be on a flight to Ireland. Sinead O'Connor was one of the hottest women in music. She's still fine, of course, but skinny? Shaved head? Anti-Catholic? YES. And her music was okay, I guess.

Anyway, the notion that a rich, famous--if faded--female pop star has to complain about lack of sex on a blog proves everything I've been saying about Western society for years.

P.S. "the difficult brown" is the best and most honest name for anal sex ever.

P.P.S.: I'm not in the running anyway as I appear to be too young. Ageist.

 

[doubleohfive]

Few people agree with me on this, but when asking someone out, getting turned down is a good thing. Without exception.

It is said that "the worst that can happen is they'll say 'no.'" I know from experience that isn't true. Women have laughed in my face, said things like "I'm insulted that you'd think I'd date a loser like you" and "that's my boyfriend over there. Leave me alone or I'll tell him to beat the shit out of you," and other things I don't care to mention; it's a long list. Still, it's a good thing.

If one turns down another's request for a date, it's really nothing personal. The prima facie reason is that we as humans can't choose who we're attracted to and who we're not attracted to. Beyond that, it takes more that mutual attraction for a relationship to work: compatible personalities and goals, similar interests, skill sets that complement each other... It's true that there are "plenty of fish in the sea," as it were, but compatibility is somewhat rare, and it's worth holding out for.

When someone turns down a date, it's usually because they realize that compatibility isn't there. While rejection hurts, and it may not seem like it at the time, they're actually doing you a favor. If they're not feeling it, but they say "yes" anyway, it will only cause bigger problems down the line.

Being turned down only means you're not what they're looking for. it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, or that you're not good enough. Even if a girl actually thinks you're not good enough, or actually tells you you're not good enough, she's still doing you a favor. I mean, would you really want to date such a complete bitch?

Verily, there is much wisdom in this post.

As for those things the women said to you... ... literally the first time I've heard of such responses.

Most of the "worse that no" stuff was from high school, which explains everything. The stuff after high school... some women are just bitches. Still, that kind of response isn't typical for me.

Although, I don't really ask women out anymore, or "date" either. I do things that look very much like asking people out and dating, but I think about it differently. Asking someone out usually means "I have a romantic interest in you, and I'd like to pursue that, are you interested?" Whereas what I do, I mean "I'd like to get to know you better." Yeah, that's what dating is supposed to be, but usually there is the implication of romantic interest. The difference is I don't like to go in with expectations.

I am astonished that for so wise a post you have not been granted your own starship command and promoted to Kaptain.

Heretofore I shall only refer to you as Kaptain because, seriously, this post wins this thread.

What do I need with a starship? It sounds like too much responsibility.

Kommander is not a rank, it is a state of being. While I find your desire to promote me flattering, it really isn't necessary.

Very well then. I still however think you are a wise man.

 

[Kommander]

^ Well, dating is one of the areas of my life that I've fucked up so thoroughly that I'd hope I'd learn something from all my mistakes. Although, things have gotten better since I decided I was polyamorous.

Actually, that's not true. Polyamory is difficult. Still, it feels like I know what I'm doing for once.

 

[Mr Silver]

Dating advice in itself is a paradox. People who haven't had any problems getting dates cannot impart helpful advice to those who struggle. It's nothing bad, just they cannot relate to the situation. Those who do offer advice via this pickup artist phenomenon are generally men (or even women) who have been successful in dating through manipulation and exploitation. The people who can give advice to those who struggle are people who have struggled themselves and this is paradoxical in some ways, because they are the same in the same boat as you.

 

[Kestra]

People can have failed relationships and successful ones. In fact, I'd suggest that the majority of people are in that situation.

 

[MANT!]

Aldo..
you've taken this all wrong..

She rejected you..fine..

What you need to do is follow her home at a discrete distance..take lots of photos of her house,car etc.

Take telephoto photographs of her..and paste them in the shrine to her in your home that you will construct out of stuff from her wastepaper basket..

Send her letters..stating that you were always meant to be together, and if you can't be with her than no one can!!...

Wait for restraining order...

Then repeat with another girl...


Wait!!... NO!! thats how NOT to do it...

You did something NEW!!...you asked, instead of wishing hopefully..
Now follow it up with other NEW things.. Ask a female friend out for coffee, (you do have 'em..everyone does)..discuss your issues with females with her... ask her advice, in a general way..

or..see if you notice a girl that's interested in YOU ,she'll be friendly, looks at you when she thinks you aren't looking (sunglasses are really good for this) and seems to always have a kind word to you and can't wait to see you. Then ask that girl out.

 

[Kommander]

Wait!!... NO!! thats how NOT to do it...

Well duh!

You don't just stop after the restraining order.

 

[Aldo]

Ooh ooh I think I know this one. You wait for at least two more restraining orders and a visit or two from the police.

 

[Holdfast]

Wait!!... NO!! thats how NOT to do it...

Well duh!

You don't just stop after the restraining order.

 

[Trelane]

Prostitutes. Porn. Nuff said. A lot easier to get and far fewer reasons to bring the drama.

 

[Trekker4747]

Ooh ooh I think I know this one. You wait for at least two more restraining orders and a visit or two from the police.

I believe after three restraining order you get a free Quiznos sub!

 

[Squiggy]

Prostitutes. Porn. Nuff said. A lot easier to get and far fewer reasons to bring the drama.

And as an added bonus: Gonorrhea!

 

[Trelane]

Prostitutes. Porn. Nuff said. A lot easier to get and far fewer reasons to bring the drama.

And as an added bonus: Gonorrhea!

That's assuming STI's are exclusive to hookers, which they aren't. There's plenty of low self-esteem party chicks / non-pro's with medical "issues".