well, I was all of 17 and devastated. DEVASTATED!!
I still remember standing in line with many of my classmates. it was a looooooooong line. we took turns to go to the restroom. it was our first participation into active Trekfandom. we weren't old enough to do it during TMP. TWOK was our intro. we laughed, we gasped, we cried. we came out and went to Dairy Queen and hung out and argued and argued and argued about whether Spock was really dead. and if he was, whether he should stay dead. the next year, many of us went to Creation Con in NYC to see Nimoy face a several thou audience. I mean, it's memory, ya know?
we had to wait two whole years after that in order to see it and believe it (that he came back).
so I guess you had to be there to know what this movie means to some us. it's all in the perspective.
sure, maybe TWOK on the whole doesn't hold up as well as some of the others but... BUT... it's got moments that are absolute, pure, unadulterated gold. meyer knew what he was doing. and unlike TMP, he didn't let it lose momentum. I actually love TMP, but I am not going to deny its flaws (just as I won't deny TWOK's).