And most importantly, how do you feel about it? Do you think guys who do that are all weirdos? How often does it happen?
Ladies, do you often get approached on the street?
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No, yes, and never.
It doesn't happen (unless you count the occasional nice smile from a stranger) and I really don't know how I feel about it.
It would seem weird indeed. However, if someone showed up and said "Hey, you seem nice and I've noticed you, do you want to grab a cup of coffee together?" I would appreciate the honesty and the courage. Having someone just staring at me is much more weird than that.
It would seem weird indeed. However, if someone showed up and said "Hey, you seem nice and I've noticed you, do you want to grab a cup of coffee together?" I would appreciate the honesty and the courage. Having someone just staring at me is much more weird than that.
Depends on what you mean by approached. Are we including the people who pretty clearly have something else going on? The people trying to get me to donate money to such and such organization? Or are you just talking about well-dressed seemingly normal strangers approaching you with the intention of asking you out? I live in the city; I get approached by all sorts of people!
Well what I mean by approached is to chat and ask for a number. I've been seeing this girl at the park while running a few times and I would like to talk to her. But I think the automatic response to a stranger chatting you up is that this guy no doubt is a creepy. A bummer really.
Really? You guys don't get approached often? I thought it happens to girls all the time. I would have more courage if I knew other guys do it all the time. I guess I should have addressed this topic to guys as well and ask them what they usually do if they see a girl they like on the subway or park.
Really? You guys don't get approached often? I thought it happens to girls all the time. I would have more courage if I knew other guys do it all the time. I guess I should have addressed this topic to guys as well and ask them what they usually do if they see a girl they like on the subway or park.
Start off with, "Hey, I always see you running here. I've been thinking about doing it myself; how have your results been?" or something along those lines.
yes I live in Miami & Ive been approached & here the guys do it in a very sleazy way. Three times Ive had guys approach me while theyre in their car as Im walking to the bus stop & ask me where Im going & if Id like a "ride". My sis was approached at supermarket by some nasty young guy whispering in her ear what he'd like to do with her.
I hate it, I feel like prey...Im always nervous now whenever I'm around a guy that's eyeing or paying too much attentiuon to me.
I hate it, I feel like prey...Im always nervous now whenever I'm around a guy that's eyeing or paying too much attentiuon to me.
That happened to me except I'm a man and it was a 17 year old offering me a ride. It was... odd.
^ This actually happened to me one night after work (11pm). Some guy pulled up to me as I was walking to the bus and asked me if I wanted a ride home. It sounded like a guy I worked with, so I got in the car. Turns out it wasn't the guy I worked with. Oops!
He was pretty talkative so I didn't have to say much...I just had him leave me off a few blocks from home. I'm still not sure exactly what was going on there.
So while I would usually say that I'd never consider taking a ride from a stranger, I guess I have.
He was pretty talkative so I didn't have to say much...I just had him leave me off a few blocks from home. I'm still not sure exactly what was going on there.
So while I would usually say that I'd never consider taking a ride from a stranger, I guess I have.
Rules for approaching kes7 (Well, before I got married, anyway. Now you will all fail -- nothing personal. 
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1. Be clean. Don't smell like booze, weed or sweat.
2. Be dressed like a functional human being (as opposed to a thug or a hobo).
3. Look me in the eye, not at my body. Smile.
4. Start with something NOT related to the fact that you want to bone me. Ask for directions, the time, talk about the weather, whatever. "Dayum girl, you fine," "Look at that ass," "Hey, baby," and/or catcalls are NOT clever pickup lines.
5. If I don't seem interested, live with it. Plenty of fish in the sea. Acting offended makes you seem like a creeper with an entitlement mentality.
Just a few tips from a woman.
):1. Be clean. Don't smell like booze, weed or sweat.
2. Be dressed like a functional human being (as opposed to a thug or a hobo).
3. Look me in the eye, not at my body. Smile.
4. Start with something NOT related to the fact that you want to bone me. Ask for directions, the time, talk about the weather, whatever. "Dayum girl, you fine," "Look at that ass," "Hey, baby," and/or catcalls are NOT clever pickup lines.
5. If I don't seem interested, live with it. Plenty of fish in the sea. Acting offended makes you seem like a creeper with an entitlement mentality.
Just a few tips from a woman.
The only time I have been approached in the last 25 or so years has been just after Douglas Adams death. It was the first Towel Day and I decided to carry a towel around with me. As I was walking through the mall a much younger man, who was also carrying a towel, shyly approached me and asked me if I was a Douglas Adams fan. I say 'Indeed I am" and then he asked if we could have a cup of coffee together. I said yes and we went to a nearby cafe and actually had three cups of coffee each. we spent about 70 minutes talking about Douglas Adams, Hitch-hikers, Star Trek and other nerdy things. After that we just departed and I have never laid eyes on him again.
When I was much younger 'men' (actually boys) regular stopped their cars and asked me if I wanted a ride. One day I was with a friend and a car with three guys in it stopped and one of the guys asked my friend if she wanted a screw. She said "Nope, my Dad got plenty of screws in his toolbox".
When I was much younger 'men' (actually boys) regular stopped their cars and asked me if I wanted a ride. One day I was with a friend and a car with three guys in it stopped and one of the guys asked my friend if she wanted a screw. She said "Nope, my Dad got plenty of screws in his toolbox".
Ask her out for a coffee. Simple as that. If she isn't a weirdo, she'll say yes. If she says no right away, it wouldn't have worked with any of the time wasting tricks anyways.
I rest my case.
I agree with this. The worst she can say is no, and then you're no worse off than you are right now.
It also shouldn't feel weird for anyone to be approached like this. Why should it? Everyone seeks a mate. It's a perfectly normal thing. There's nothing weird about it.
And then there's this guy or girl who finds you attractive and walks straight up to you and tells you "I like you, I want to spend time with you." There is no better compliment than this.
And then there's this guy or girl who finds you attractive and walks straight up to you and tells you "I like you, I want to spend time with you." There is no better compliment than this.
Unless it's worded as some variation on "You're hot, let's fuck." That's creepy. And happens more often than the perfectly nice alternative you've proposed.
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