Human behavior is often complex and elusive ... Do you notice when others ”check you out”? Which doesn't necessarily mean anything, but it can be flattering or annoying, depending on the circumstances. It may be subtle or even unconscious - a quick glance, a smile, wandering eyes, etc. And as much as I hate staring at others, sometimes I catch myself looking, too.
When I say checking someone out, I don't necessarily mean it in a flirty kind of way, but in a manner that's complimentary and flattering. For example, I sometimes compliment people by saying, "You've got new shoes? Cool!" or "I like your hairstyle/Nice haircut." But personal compliments like those are often done consciously by the complimenter, so the complimented tends to acknowledge them. When a person, particularly someone I don't know, looks at me in a certain way, my first reaction is that I get self-conscious. Or maybe it's just anxiety. In any case, I'm very much aware when people look or stare at me; be it negatively or positively, I can't always tell. I tend to do it to others as well, although not always on purpose, but if I have something nice to say to people I know, I tell them.
There's this cute Asian guy from another department where I work, and we say hi when we pass each other in the hallway. Today we took the same elevator during the lunch hour, and there was some small talk about the hot Bay Area weather. I noted his body language when he looked at me (or my clothes) in a sort of positive way. I wasn't wearing anything special, just a plain blue dress shirt and a pair of khaki Dockers pants.
I didn't look hideous either, but it made me wonder what he was thinking. "Have you lost some weight? Nice threads. What's that stain?" 
You could pretty much tell when people look at you and say, "Geez, you're a mess!" or "You look great!" and it was more like the latter. Anyway, I'm not going to read into it any more than I already have.
What say you? Do you always notice when others look at you in a certain way? And do you catch yourself looking at others as well?
When I say checking someone out, I don't necessarily mean it in a flirty kind of way, but in a manner that's complimentary and flattering. For example, I sometimes compliment people by saying, "You've got new shoes? Cool!" or "I like your hairstyle/Nice haircut." But personal compliments like those are often done consciously by the complimenter, so the complimented tends to acknowledge them. When a person, particularly someone I don't know, looks at me in a certain way, my first reaction is that I get self-conscious. Or maybe it's just anxiety. In any case, I'm very much aware when people look or stare at me; be it negatively or positively, I can't always tell. I tend to do it to others as well, although not always on purpose, but if I have something nice to say to people I know, I tell them.
There's this cute Asian guy from another department where I work, and we say hi when we pass each other in the hallway. Today we took the same elevator during the lunch hour, and there was some small talk about the hot Bay Area weather. I noted his body language when he looked at me (or my clothes) in a sort of positive way. I wasn't wearing anything special, just a plain blue dress shirt and a pair of khaki Dockers pants.
I didn't look hideous either, but it made me wonder what he was thinking. "Have you lost some weight? Nice threads. What's that stain?" You could pretty much tell when people look at you and say, "Geez, you're a mess!" or "You look great!" and it was more like the latter. Anyway, I'm not going to read into it any more than I already have.What say you? Do you always notice when others look at you in a certain way? And do you catch yourself looking at others as well?
I'm more like a telepath, except in extremely crowded places, where people are basically looking at everyone else.
( not often, though)
