I'm just curious as to why she doesn't want to and ask for a logical reason why. I do understand though that she doesn't want to have to give an answer every time, if ever, but that's just how I operate...needing a logical reason for things.
But movies and music are not about logic, my friend. They trigger an emotional response. It is fitting that, especially from a woman, the refusal to discover them comes from emotionally-based prejudices that would be difficult or embarrassing to spell out logically. If you asked me to watch "The Sopranos", I'd say, "No, I don't like mob shows. Those guys are just too icky for me." In spite of all the acclaim.
To me, she just seems really stubborn and closed minded when it comes to things like movies and music, and all I want to do is share things with her that I like that I think she'd like too.
If she really likes you, she should enjoy watching and listening "through you". Meaning, in your company.
I once had a man friend who refused to discover my music suggestions outside of my presence. He needed to perceive my emotional response so as to construct/heighten his experience. (I confess there aren't many like him out there. He is a bit of a psychic. A bit crazy, too. Hypersensitive
and a black hole-like pain in the butt.)
Anyway, it does make a big difference if someone (whose opinion) you care about is watching/listening with you.
Your friend doesn't seem to have much empathy with you.
Hah, and no we definitely aren't married...though sometimes it feels like we are. I don't know if it would work, she actually watched Back to the Future at my request and...said she thought it was lame.
Maybe compromises are as much about accepting to share thigs as about accepting there are things you cannot share.
she used a really bad anology (comparing movies to cigarettes) and when I didn't see the validity of her comparison, she said "youre such an idiot"
This would seem to be the biggest over-reaction of all time. I honestly don't think that what she said makes a whole lot of sense. You're right,
Flux, that's the worst analogy ever.
I guess that's just the best she could come up with under pressure. I'm beginning to think guys give girls too much credit sometimes.
Then again, I readily admit that I don't have a clue what women are thinking in situations like this. My mother would do the same thing, over-react and call my father or me various names for the smallest things. I just don't get it.
Must be a trait of character. Annoying, and should be better controlled. Maybe the person operates on a different scale that needs to be interpreted. It's like translation.
At any rate, one shouldn't overreact to an overreaction.
People shouldn't get too comfortable with each other either, though. There must remain some respect, in the long run.
And sometimes, all one needs is more time... I know I've had to learn that.
